#60 - Costco and Cheating
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Hello! It’s Tuesday and so we are back in your inbox. Last week we were talking about Tinder’s new matchmaking feature, and we want to delegate (or be delegated to)…
Two stories and a Wild Card enclosed below. Great to see you.
Our Stories
These are real stories collected from otters we meet along the way.
68F | Married | Retired | Princeton, NJ
Our family was playing Table Topics at a diner. The question was, “Do you prefer hugs or words of encouragement?” I bought my daughter a t-shirt 10+ years ago that reads, “I’m a cuddler”. Faded and worn out, it is still her go to t-shirt at home so her answer was obvious - hugs. My husband’s answer was the same – hugs. I knew those two needed more affection, and I always made it a point to tend to my daughter. She had our undivided attention. After 44 years of marriage, I now start my mornings hugging my husband. In some marriages, affection comes naturally but ours is one where one partner needs it more than the other. It’s something I have only just started to work on because it’s never too late to try harder.
28M | Single | Grad Student | Princeton, NJ
I grew a strong connection with a peer in my grad program. A few group projects later (where nothing happened), and my now ex-girlfriend said I was cheating on her. I never crossed the line into physical intimacy. My colleague had my attention mainly because of our academic interests. I really enjoyed the way she thinks about problems. I understand why this might be threatening to a partner, but being accused of cheating felt like a stretch. I would never physically cheat on her. It is against my morals. Here’s where this is confusing to me: I was committed to her and thought it might go somewhere, but it was something I was still figuring out. Was she someone I could spend the rest of my life with? How does one explore that question ethically?
Wildcard
What caught our eye in the land of relationships and dating this week? A podcast, an article, a meme…or something else? It’s a wildcard with a dash of MTO’s point of view.
The Costco Membership Dilemma
A Costco membership always seemed correlated to bigger households. Motley Fool broke down not only whether a Costco membership is worth it for a single person household, they also justified the Executive Costco membership.
Note: We were not paid to share this article. We genuinely enjoyed the justification of a Costco Membership.
Tldr: Turns out it makes sense financially if you’re planning to tap into the higher ticket categories at Costco (e.g. electronics, jewelry, furniture, clothing) during the year. Kirkland sweatshirts for all!
Thanks for sharing some of your Tuesday here. As always feel free to reply with any questions, feedback, dating stories, and/or cheesy jokes.
See you next week!
-Simran